Decide who is receiving: If it's you, tell your partner exactly what to do – down to the touch, lick, stop, start. If you're giving, listen deeply. Learn something new.

Love notes: Take a pen and write love notes and hearts all over your partner's body.

Close your eyes and describe exactly, in intimate detail, the sex you're about to have. Embellish your descriptions. If you can't find language, make it up.

Do a sexual compatibility match test with your partner online, and compare results.

Pick a vinyasa yoga session online. Create a space – whether that means lighting a candle or pushing the furniture out of the way – and do it together, naked.

Masturbate on different sides of the room. Text each other when you are done and describe what you saw.

Remove the blankets and pillows off your bed. Turn off the lights, block out the windows and make it pitch black. Now, explore.

Pull up YouPorn: one partner choose a category, and the other choose the video. Keep your bodies touching. Talk through what you enjoy about what you see.

Take a shower together and wash your partner’s body. Adjust the heat, soap their limbs, even wash their hair. After, dry them off from head to toe. Be thorough.

Make Yes, No, Maybe lists of all the things you could do during foreplay and sex, then share it with your partner.

Challenge yourselves to engage all five senses in foreplay: touching, tasting, smelling, hearing, and seeing. Use scented massage oil, music or dirty talk, flavored lube, and your favorite visual turn-ons.

Deep dive into first base. Make out like you're back in high school and your mom is washing dishes in the kitchen while you "watch TV" in the living room.

If you have a noisy brain, dirty talk can help keep your brain engaged in what's happening. Whisper the naughtiest thing you can think of in your partner's ear.

Have a meditation session together before having sex. Connect and build that sexual energy together.

Tell your partner something that you love about them. Simple as that.

Visit an erotic stories website. Pick the first story and read it to your partner while they are blindfolded.

Play a board game and start an argument about who is winning. The person who wins get to choose your punishment.

Give your partner oral sex while they meditate.

Lie down on the floor and have your partner play doctor. Tell them where you need special attention.

Call your partner a name of their choosing for the rest of the day. 

Ask your partner what the first thing was that they were attracted to about you.

Write out one-page erotic short stories starring your partner and read them to each other.

Create a sex bucket list of all the things you want to try together.

Create a body map of erogenous zones (areas of heightened sensitivity) on each other and how they like to be stimulated.

Go online and find some "creative sex positions" and pick something you haven't tried before.

Pick a YouPorn video that both of you like the look of. Go into separate rooms, and watch it. Meet afterward and talk about what you liked and disliked.

Have your partner pick a letter, go to YouPorn and find a performer whose name begins with that letter. Watch one of their videos together.

Tell each other something that turns you on in porn, specifically. Take your partner's turn-on to YouPorn, and find a video that you love that fits their turn ons. 

Go to YouPorn > videos >  'homemade' and act out the first video you see in real-time together.

Go to YouPorn > categories > actions, and pick a category that you wouldn't normally watch, but are curious about. Face sitting? Bondage?

High rotation: Open YouPorn and go through the categories together, saying ‘would’ or ‘wouldn’t’ to watching each one. When you both say ‘would’, either watch them or save them to a playlist. 

Reminisce about the last time you had sex with one another. Talk each other through it, how you felt emotionally and physically, don't miss any details!

Go to YouPorn separately. Find a video that represents your fantasy, then reconvene and watch each other’s videos together. 

Genital gazing is like eye gazing – witnessing your partner up close, in a prolonged and present way. Set a three minute timer, and take turns. Simply gaze and worship.

Sit silently in front of your partner. Connect with their eyes. Notice the sound of their breath; how they adjust their body. Set a timer for five minutes and eye-gaze.

Sit in front of your partner. Slowly take turns to take items of clothing off, passing each item to your partner. Watch closely.

How does sex make you feel? What does it fulfil in your body, mind and life? Take a good moment to think about it, and tell eachother. Ask questions.

Have a pressure-free, expectation-free decompression session. Sook about work, give each other a massage, take a hot shower – whatever it takes get into a space when you're fully relaxed.

Go online. Find a bizarre sex trend you're both curious to try. Open your mind and give it a go.

Give your lover a show in the old whipped cream bikini. If you don't have whipped cream, find something else delish in your fridge or pantry ;)

Teach your partner to give you the best oral sex you can imagine. Command them every step of the way.

Find an online sex course, choose a topic and work through the activities together.

A pack to help couples get to know each other on a deeper level. Cultivate a strong connection together – and with yourself too.